Creating Harmony with others
2007-01-31 05:45 PM | Posted by Tejvan Pettinger | Permanent Link | thursday thirteen
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Getting along with other people is one of the most important things we can do. If we have harmony with our family, friends and work colleagues; it will make life much more peaceful and enjoyable. Despite the importance of cultivating harmony in relationships, often it is something that we do not pay enough attention to.
These suggestions can help create more harmony in our lives and relationships with others.
- Appreciate the good qualities of others. When we sincerely appreciate and admire good things about other people we create tremendous positive energy in our relationships. When we appreciate good qualities of others it prevents any thoughts of jealousy or envy. Also we can feel a part of their achievements. And most importantly our friends and colleagues will definitely welcome sincere appreciation.
- Avoid negative thoughts about others If we harbour negative thoughts about other people subconsciously they will pick up on it. They may not be able to read our minds but they will get an unwelcoming vibration.
- Talk. If we feel upset at the actions of others often we feel like maintaining a haughty silence. However inwardly we are upset. However it always better to talk as this forces away the negative thoughts. Often through talking we realise things are not as bad as we feared.
- Smile. The power of a genuine smile cannot be underestimated. Immediately it conveys a positive energy, often it is more expressive than innumerable words and much easier! Scientists say that smiling can help our own state of mind. When we smile it wipes away many harmful emotions.
- Maintain a forgiving attitude. Every body makes mistakes and acts in a way that could give grounds for criticism. Unfortunately it is in the nature of the human mind to look for others faults. However if we maintain an attitude of forgiveness then we will not be burdened by the negativity of criticising each other. It is good to maintain an attitude of; “that is a mistake I could easily have made myself.” This approach require an attitude of humility but it is essential for avoiding disharmony. As Sri Chinmoy says on the importance of harmony.
“To keep harmony when you are dealing with other individuals, do not use your justice-light. Forget about justice! There is no justice on earth. Only think of wisdom-light. Always be as humble as possible.”
Be self Effacing. If somebody has a big ego, just let him go on his own way. There is no need to try correct him. Other people will do that.
Avoid feelings of supremacy. When we harbour feelings of supremacy and feel that we are better than other people, it means that our ego has come to the fore. This will create disharmony because people dislike dealing with strong egos. We should maintain always the feeling of humility.
**Do enjoyable things **. If your relationships are always very serious it is likely to be quite strained. If we can enjoy light hearted humour and do something fun, it will provide great mental relaxation and enable our relationships to become much more harmonious.
Curb your anger. Never speak when angry as your words will hurt the other person. As Thomas Jefferson said
"When angry count to ten before you speak.
If very angry, count to one hundred."
- Meditation Try Meditation to bring peace into your state of mind. When we have inner peace it is much easier to bring about harmony in our everyday lives.
- Personal space Give each other personal space to enjoy doing what you like doing. Even with close relationships it is good to find time to be on your own. This prevents relationships getting too intense.
- Forget the Past. If things go wrong in the past just forget it. Remember this mantra – the past is dust!
- Be Happy Remember disharmony is painful, harmony makes life much more satisfying
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